Families Face Autism Stigma, Isolation

Marina Sarris
Interactive Autism Network at Kennedy Krieger Institute


Date Published: February 4, 2016

Parents report that their child's autistic behaviors, combined with social stigma and isolation, make their lives more challenging, according to a new study of the Simons Simplex Collection (SSC).

In one of the largest studies of its kind, Ruth L. Fischbach PhD looked at how and why stigma affects families. Stigma occurs when people feel shamed, inferior and isolated because they are different from others.1 Her team interviewed 502 parents in the SSC autism research project about their children’s behavior and family experiences.

The researchers found a significant amount of isolation and even outright rejection of children and their families. More than 65 percent of the children were sometimes or often avoided or left out of activities by other kids. About 13 percent were physically bullied at least sometimes.2

"The experience of stigma can be extremely damaging to the personal identity and well-being of the individual with ASD [autism spectrum disorder] and by extension, his or her family," Dr. Fischbach said during an online seminar about her research.3

The Invitations That Didn't Come

In her study, 82 percent of the SSC parents said their children with autism had trouble making friends sometimes or often. And schoolmates regarded 76 percent of the children as "weird or odd," at least sometimes. In addition to bullying, the parents reported several serious problems that occurred sometimes or often: more than a third of the children were teased or insulted, and 22 percent were called hurtful names.2

This social isolation extended to their families. Forty percent of the parents said they isolated themselves from friends and family because of their child’s autistic behaviors. And 32 percent said other people excluded them from social events and activities.

Almost 80 percent of the parents said stigma had been extremely, very or somewhat difficult in their lives.

Bullying and Teasing

Lillian, an SSC parent who lives in a small Midwestern town, said her teenage son with autism was bullied in elementary and middle school. "He was called names and teased about things he cared a lot about," such as his interest in super heroes. "He was hurt badly by this."

Her son's frustration from the bullying, and the school's inability to stop it, spilled over into their family life. "In middle school, the stress of the bullying has been reflected in violent behavior toward his younger brother," Lillian said.

"Although the middle school was more responsive, [having to] know the names of his attackers was a lot to ask of him and still put a lot on his shoulders," she said.

"All of the bullying can be tied back to his spectrum behaviors: his lack of focus, his pickiness about certain things, his obsessive fixations on Superman or super heroes, and non-social behavior in general. He doesn't know how to socialize, and nothing we have tried has really helped. He had a friend in sixth grade who moved away, and he hasn't had a friend since." She has been unable to find a social group for him. "Services in this area are really lacking for these kids," she said.

The Behavior-Stigma Connection

Autism has some unique characteristics that have created an almost perfect storm for shame and rejection. People with autism look like everyone else but may behave very differently than expected. As sociologist David Gray wrote, "It is this combination of pervasive disability and apparent physical normality that gives the stigma experienced by families with autistic children its unique quality."4 An Israeli study found that caregivers of people with autism reported feeling more stigma than caregivers of people with intellectual or physical disabilities.5, 6

A child’s autistic symptoms and disruptive behavior played the largest role in how often the child was rejected by others, according to the SSC study.2 Those behaviors were, listed from highest frequency to lowest:

  • trouble making eye contact
  • becoming upset when routines change
  • noticeable repetitive behaviors, such as hand-flapping
  • serious tantrums or meltdowns
  • aggression or threats toward others
  • bowel or bladder control problems
  • head-banging.

The greater number of those behaviors, the more isolated and excluded the family felt from friends, relatives, and social events. In fact, in analyzing their data, the researchers concluded that the child’s rejection by his peers "may be one factor leading to the family’s isolation and exclusion."

As the researchers noted, onlookers sometimes react to autistic behavior in ways that are uninformed. They may mistake a child’s autistic behavior for terrible parenting, a dangerous lack of self-control, or mental illness.

Using a model described by two Columbia University sociologists,7 Dr. Fischbach explained the process by which autism is stigmatized.3 First, the child's behavior is labeled as different and linked to negative stereotypes. Then he is rejected, isolated and excluded, and he loses social status. That ultimately leads to discrimination, said Dr. Fischbach, professor of bioethics at Columbia University in New York.

Battling Autism Stereotypes

Many parents said they think that some or most people harbor certain stereotyped beliefs: that people with autism cannot be good friends and that they’re dangerous, mentally ill, or intellectually disabled.2

The public seems to have mostly rejected one old stereotype about autism. Only "a few" people believe that bad parenting can cause autism, according to 58 percent of the SSC parents surveyed. The so-called "refrigerator mother" theory, which blamed cold and loveless parenting for autism, was discredited decades ago.

Families said raising a child with ASD can be hard. About 18 percent said it was "extremely" difficult, 32 percent said it was "very" difficult, and 40 percent said it was "somewhat" difficult. In addition to facing stigma, families whose children had the most autistic behaviors reported the most difficulty in raising them.2

More than half the parents reported that they or their spouse had to reduce work hours or quit working because of the demands of caring for their child with autism. For information on how some SSC families have coped, see the article, Rocky Road: The Career Paths Of People With Autism And Their Parents.

The SSC research project is made up of 2,756 families in the United States and Canada who each had only one child with autism when they joined.

Additional Resources: 


  1. Goffman, E. (1963). Stigma: Notes on the management of spoiled identity. New York: Simon & Schuster Inc.
  2. Kinnear, S. H., Link, B. G., Ballan, M. S., & Fischbach, R. L. (2015). Understanding the experience of stigma for parents of children with autism spectrum disorder and the role stigma plays in families' lives. Journal of Autism and Developmental Disorders, doi:10.1007/s10803-015-2637-9. Abstract.
  3. Fischbach, R. L. (2015). Do parents and scientists agree on ASD? Retrieved from https://iancommunity.org/webinar-views-parents-and-scientists-about-autism
  4. Gray, D. E. (1993). Perceptions of stigma: The parents of autistic children. Sociology of Health & Illness, 15(1), 102-120. doi:10.1111/1467-9566.ep11343802
  5. Werner, S., & Shulman, C. (2013). Subjective well-being among family caregivers of individuals with developmental disabilities: The role of affiliate stigma and psychosocial moderating variables. Research in Developmental Disabilities, 34(11), 4103-4114. Abstract.
  6. Werner, S., & Shulman, C. (2015). Does type of disability make a difference in affiliate stigma among family caregivers of individuals with autism, intellectual disability or physical disability? Journal of Intellectual Disability Research , 59(3), 272-283. Abstract.
  7. Link, B. G., & Phelan, J. C. (2001). Conceptualizing stigma. Annual Review of Sociology, 27(1), 363-385. doi:10.1146/annurev.soc.27.1.363
These archived articles were originally published as part of the Interactive Autism Network (IAN) research project. 
The project is closed and no longer accepting participants.

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